Almost every LGBTQ or GSM person is in the closet at one point or another, and this is a collection of all the associated crap, from the depressing to the hilarious.
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Every time we get a question like this I feel bad because without knowing the ins and outs, there’s nothing I can advise you. There’s only the generic advise like “do it when the moment is right, you’ll just know” and “if they care for you, they’ll understand”. Apart from the fact that neither of these things are true, I hate saying them.
Chances are, there will never be a right moment, you’ll only feel like there’s a bad moment and a worse moment. Everyone has that problem, generic advise - “you’re not alone” because you’re not, you never will be…
Completely, but you MUST remember there’s nothing wrong with you at all. It’s the people around you that make you feel this way that have problems. You shouldn’t be made to feel like there’s anything wrong with you just because of your sexuality and how the people around you perceive ‘normal’. Just remind yourself that if others weren’t so closed minded, they would probably find themselves questioning their own sexuality.
Don’t be afraid to be yourself,
I have said before, as much as I would love to help you, I’m not prepared to identify you, that is something that can only be done by yourself. The advise I can give you though is; calm down, no one is forcing you to realise your identity, and while you’re worked up about it, it’s a lot harder to try and make a judgement. Not only this but stress levels effect your hormone levels which, in turn, will be sending your brain into chemical overload which will make it harder to ‘feel’ like any gender. Once you’ve calmed down and settled down emotionally, it will probably be far easier to make a natural identification.I hope this helps a bit,
This is always a horrible position to be in, because it hurts so much. But you have to consider all the outcomes; you could lose your friend, you could keep your friend and not disclose your feelings, you can disclose your sexuality beforehand and see the reaction gained, and my least favorite option - remain in the closet and continue as things are. I hope this situation works out for the best,
Themed party? Or dependant on gender/orientation you could have pin the penis/boobs on the body? Instead of titling your invites with birthday party you could call it your coming out party? I’m not really sure, but I like where you’re going with this - a very lighthearted way to come out. Good luck!
You don’t have to come out to your mum, is the no one else you could turn to for nothing other than coming out? Or, as horrible as it sounds, everyone but your mum? I am, however, very concerned about your wellbeing and would like to make you aware of the fact that you can talk to me about anything, there’s a lot I’ve been through and I’m more than happy to be a cyber-shoulder to cry on. This applies to anyone, you can post off anon and say you only want private replies if there’s anything you need more advise on or something ongoing. I’m here for you,
This is probably something that you would need to talk to her about as no one knows how she is feeling other than herself and she won’t know how you’re feeling or interpreting her actions until you confront her about it. I wish you all the best in your path to identification :)
Maybe it would be best to try and be casual about it. If you’re comfortable with being bi sexual then you probably won’t have much difficulty in chatting about it, regardless of whether it’s with friends or family. By the sounds of it, the people around you are more than likely going to be very accepting.
Take baby steps, don’t rush anything, because once it’s done, the whole thing will be gone and it’ll feel like a weight off your shoulders.