Almost every LGBTQ or GSM person is in the closet at one point or another, and this is a collection of all the associated crap, from the depressing to the hilarious.
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Black text on a rainbow background: Number 592, when your education is dependent on support from the parents who would disown you if you came out to them

Black text on a rainbow background: Number 592, when your education is dependent on support from the parents who would disown you if you came out to them

Anonymous asked
I'm nervous about coming out to my family any suggestions that might make is easier?

Every time we get a question like this I feel bad because without knowing the ins and outs, there’s nothing I can advise you. There’s only the generic advise like “do it when the moment is right, you’ll just know” and “if they care for you, they’ll understand”. Apart from the fact that neither of these things are true, I hate saying them.

Chances are, there will never be a right moment, you’ll only feel like there’s a bad moment and a worse moment. Everyone has that problem, generic advise - “you’re not alone” because you’re not, you never will be…

Black text on a rainbow background: Number 591, dating a guy after coming out as bisexual, and everyone thinking it was “just a phase” and you’re over it now

Black text on a rainbow background: Number 591, dating a guy after coming out as bisexual, and everyone thinking it was “just a phase” and you’re over it now

Anonymous asked
Is it normal to kind of hate yourself for being gay? For it to not be right and feel guilty that it could affect everyone else in your life?

Completely, but you MUST remember there’s nothing wrong with you at all. It’s the people around you that make you feel this way that have problems. You shouldn’t be made to feel like there’s anything wrong with you just because of your sexuality and how the people around you perceive ‘normal’. Just remind yourself that if others weren’t so closed minded, they would probably find themselves questioning their own sexuality.

Don’t be afraid to be yourself,
Ellie x

Anonymous asked
Please help me :( I don't know what I identify as, wether I feel like a man or a woman, I'm starting to think I don't feel like either, I'm so terribly confused, I heard that there is something called a Third-gender? Would feeling like neither count as third-gender? I'm really sorry if I'm bothering you, its just that I don't have anyone to talk to...

I have said before, as much as I would love to help you, I’m not prepared to identify you, that is something that can only be done by yourself. The advise I can give you though is; calm down, no one is forcing you to realise your identity, and while you’re worked up about it, it’s a lot harder to try and make a judgement. Not only this but stress levels effect your hormone levels which, in turn, will be sending your brain into chemical overload which will make it harder to ‘feel’ like any gender. Once you’ve calmed down and settled down emotionally, it will probably be far easier to make a natural identification.I hope this helps a bit,

Ellie x

Anonymous asked
I'm in love with my best friend but she's not a lesbian and I don't know what to do

This is always a horrible position to be in, because it hurts so much. But you have to consider all the outcomes; you could lose your friend, you could keep your friend and not disclose your feelings, you can disclose your sexuality beforehand and see the reaction gained, and my least favorite option - remain in the closet and continue as things are. I hope this situation works out for the best,

Ellie x

Black text on a rainbow background: Number 590, when you tell your friends but they don’t believe you because you don’t “look like a lesbian”

Black text on a rainbow background: Number 590, when you tell your friends but they don’t believe you because you don’t “look like a lesbian”

Anonymous asked
is there any funny way to come out? I was thinking of baking a cake written ''im gay'' for my birthday and invite my friends, but i'm not sure if its a good idea. You have any funny come out quote or good idea for comming out?

Themed party? Or dependant on gender/orientation you could have pin the penis/boobs on the body? Instead of titling your invites with birthday party you could call it your coming out party? I’m not really sure, but I like where you’re going with this - a very lighthearted way to come out. Good luck!

Ellie x

Black text on a rainbow background: Number 589, when only one person knows so you can only talk to them about it, but you don’t want to keep bothering them about it so you just keep it all locked up inside

Black text on a rainbow background: Number 589, when only one person knows so you can only talk to them about it, but you don’t want to keep bothering them about it so you just keep it all locked up inside

Anonymous asked
I'm bisexual. I know it. I want to just scream it from the rooftops so everyone knows, but at the moment I'm struggling with anxiety, self harm addiction, depression and exam stress (all unrelated to my sexuality) and I haven't been to school for months because of it. I'm also on pills. Coming out now would lift a weight and maybe improve my mental health, but my mum is anti-gay marriage and I don't think it would be fair on her, what with all my other issues she's helping me with. Any advice?

You don’t have to come out to your mum, is the no one else you could turn to for nothing other than coming out? Or, as horrible as it sounds, everyone but your mum? I am, however, very concerned about your wellbeing and would like to make you aware of the fact that you can talk to me about anything, there’s a lot I’ve been through and I’m more than happy to be a cyber-shoulder to cry on. This applies to anyone, you can post off anon and say you only want private replies if there’s anything you need more advise on or something ongoing. I’m here for you,

Ellie x

White text on a rainbow background: Number 588, feeling like you’re constantly lying even if you’re not talking at all

White text on a rainbow background: Number 588, feeling like you’re constantly lying even if you’re not talking at all

Anonymous asked
I've always been emotionally reserved, never been in a relationship or want to be, and never been with a girl. I'm starting to wonder if it's because I might like girls. I started talking to this girl but I can't tell if she's flirting or being nice or just trying to keep up the convo because I'm older than she is and she doesn't want to look like "that" young kid. I can't tell if I like her or I'm liking the idea that I might like her...

This is probably something that you would need to talk to her about as no one knows how she is feeling other than herself and she won’t know how you’re feeling or interpreting her actions until you confront her about it. I wish you all the best in your path to identification :)

Ellie x

Anonymous asked
Hi. About a month ago I read into bisexuality and thought wow that sounds like me and since then I've felt more comfortable and more confident but I can't see myself coming out. At school (Im 16) my friends are super accepting of gay people but I think coming out as bi would weird them out a bit and everyone else would think I was a freak. My family are ok with homosexuality(I have gay family)but I don't know how they would be about being bi, I think they would think it's a made up thing. Help!

Maybe it would be best to try and be casual about it. If you’re comfortable with being bi sexual then you probably won’t have much difficulty in chatting about it, regardless of whether it’s with friends or family. By the sounds of it, the people around you are more than likely going to be very accepting.

Take baby steps, don’t rush anything, because once it’s done, the whole thing will be gone and it’ll feel like a weight off your shoulders.

Ellie x

White text on a rainbow background: Number 587, having to come out again at college and feeling the anxiety work its way back in

White text on a rainbow background: Number 587, having to come out again at college and feeling the anxiety work its way back in

White text on a rainbow background: Number 586, “Asexual? But sex is programmed into our DNA!”

White text on a rainbow background: Number 586, “Asexual? But sex is programmed into our DNA!”